My experience is my loved ones were deeply effected by my alcoholism in many ways - the ripples on the pond analogy. I had to really look at that, humbly. It is very painful and I take responsibility for some of their shortcomings which I obviously can't fix.
I also attend al-anon for a couple people near to me.
From there, I remain available with boundaries and let others know I love them, but hate addictions - including my own.
A primary amends I stay engaged with is allowing others to be wrong today without unsettling me. Also, letting those who are spiritually sick know there is a solution. I remain available and know that in the valley is where I found help. Pain is truth and isn't necessarily bad. Pride makes me feel I need to do something, cause that's just how good I am.
These things allow me to keep things cleaned up daily with the 10th step.