Thank you, Lexie. I contacted AXBF and let him know that any contact not involving our daughter would be considered harassment and reported to the police.
I filed the paperwork through a workshop facilitated by a lawyer who works for a local DV shelter. I am absolutely certain that I filed a domestic violence restraining order. In my jurisdiction, when a party files one with children involved, it automatically becomes a custody order as well.
My restraining order was partly granted and partly denied. What was I denied? All of the things you typically associate with a restraining order: move out, stay away, mandatory alcohol and anger management classes, etc. I have to fight for these things at the hearing in three weeks--and I'll be fighting for custody at the same time. It's a pretty messed up system...