SH, have you talked with an advocate in your jurisdiction? Your order does not sound like any DV protective order I've ever heard of. Was this possibly an order issued as part of the custody proceedings, rather than a separate DV proceeding?
I'm not able to give you legal advice, but I work with prosecutors and attorneys and police and advocates literally all over the country. If you could PM me some further details, I might be able to help you figure out what's going on and what you can do to get the kind of order you need. From a professional standpoint I'd like to find out, too, because as I said, this does NOT appear to be standard (or even slightly unusual) as protective orders go. It could be that someone needs to let the judge know that so others don't go through the same thing. It all sounds VERY strange. And victims are NOT supposed to be serving orders and they are to be served immediately.