As is oft said, we were not bad trying to be good but sick trying to get well. How should we treat a close friend who is coming through an illness? Without mercy.....not likely.
Rolling around in the muck is never the best way to get clean. Make amends by staying sober. Be engaged in life and try not to repeat past mistakes. That is what I attempt to do daily. Some day are better than others, but regardless.
I don't pick up that first drink.......