Oh, dear. Some days feel like I write this post over and over...so many sad confused people.
This is Alcoholic 101. Many of us try over and over again to fix ourselves by hooking up with that magic person who will FIX US from the outside so we don't have to deal with our insides. And we can be soooo charming, delightful, and willing to commit because this is IT!!! The magic fix!
So the first weeks/months are magic--soulmates, cupcakes and feel-happy hormones.
Then reality sets in. And we still aren't fixed...and we want out because maybe the next relationship will be The One...but we are also often either cowards about saying so or we're at heart not nice people and don't have many compunctions about stringing someone along for the "benefits."
If you read here...it happens over and over and the poor normie is left in rubble wondering where the moonbeams and roses went.
I've been on both sides and it never ends well.
You've only known this man three months, during which he was doing everything possible to reel you in. Is it consciously manipulative? Depends on the individual.
Bottom line: if you keep pursuing him you will be continually disappointed and devalued.
You deserve more, yes?