Hi Sugar!
No matter how mad or angry you get? It's not a reason to get high! You cannot control your mother or her actions! You CAN control your own! If you go out and get high because of y'all's fighting? She basically won! You just proved everything she accused you of! Don't go there!
Your mom is still in active abuse with her drugs and alcohol! She doesn't like the fact you are cleaning your act up and starts fights in order for herself to see you're still what she expected you to be! Whatever that is in her eyes?
Next time she does this? Look her square in the eyes and speak softly. She'll have to shut up to hear you!
Don't interact with the argument she's trying to fuel. Ask her questions! Why are you wanting to argue? What do you want to accomplish with your accusations? Etc.
PPL in their clean minds don't do those things you're mom is doing! You are clean! Feel the clean in your bloodstream flow thru you when she goes on the attack. Point blank ask her if she's been drinking or using? Think before you speak. Look at her! See how she's acting? Put the ball back in her court to play with! You aren't a ball to be tossed against the wall by using harsh words and accusations!
Users and Alcoholics love company. She's not happy you have cleaned your act up! Don't let her pull you down to her level!
I'm sorry she's doing this to you!
TOD