Question: As his ex, what is the balance between creating the space I need to heal from this relationship but also ensuring he gets the help he needs? What exactly should I do?
You can’t morn and heal from the ending of the relationship if you are still dancing with the corps.
You ended it because you no longer wanted a front row seat, it is going to be the same show from a different seat.
You found your way out which is the healthy thing to do, now stay out.