Thank you all for your replies.
I have been offline a few days travelling from Vietnam back to Turkey...
In the meantime I decided not to speak with him face to face, even with witnesses.
I was questioning my motives...I wanted him to have to face me because I thought it would be difficult for him but something he could not just run away from plus I felt I was behaving like him by hiding behind a lawyer...guess thats the kind of closure I was looking for and now I understand how that is not possible with an alcoholic. Many of you had spoken of this - but I didnt really understand what no closure meaant - until now
only sporadic internet now...will be online again soon
my house is a mess. he seems to have wrecked or stolen or broken so much and everywhere is so diry...and I have no water!
first things first
thank you for being there