Thanks for the post kalex. I'm an alcoholic and a mother. I always rationalized my drinking because I had rules that I would take care of all the important stuff, like work and chores and bills before I started drinking. I always tried to minimize in my mind the effect I was having on my family so I could live with myself. The reality is that it didn't matter what rules or double think I used I was still negatively effecting those I hold the most dear to me. And really selling us all short. Best of luck to you. Sad as it is, it sounds like you and your daughter will be better off without him. I hope he can turn his life around but you two don't need to go down with the ship too.