Wow, I too am glad you posted in the "wrong" forum. I am on the alcoholic side things, fortunately sober right now, and this was a very good read/reminder for me. My children mean everything in the world to me, and your post was a good reminder of what harm I could do if I went back to drinking.
Best of luck to you, your daughter and your husband. I really hope he gets help that will stick with him and put him on the path to sobriety.