kicked him out. Now what? I really have no clue.
I got on this website about four years ago when I found out that my fiancé was addicted to OxyContin. I got great advice from this forum, and of course didn't listen to it.
Maybe now it’s time to listen. No amount of “marriage” counseling is going to help addiction. All he has done is switch drugs and then added some more.
And keep in mind the only reason you know about the Xanax and Adderall is because you caught him. When an addict fesses up to taking drugs you can bet your life it is a whole lot more in quantity then they will ever admit. So him getting some Xanax from an old friend means he’s a regular customer of a drug dealer.
Addiction progresses, it only grows worse over time until they chose to stop AND seek help to help them stay stopped.
His next move which is so very common with all addicts who’ve been “disrupted” from their comfortable normal daily routine of having drugs, obtaining drugs and fear of running out of drugs will be to get back as quickly as he can into that routine. He will use you and your vulnerable emotions. He will profess his desire to quit, he will tell you he will seek out treatment and attend meetings, do whatever it is you need him to do in order for you to take him back. He’ll claim his family is the most important thing to him, he’ll swear he’ll never touch another drug again, he will talk the talk until you cave and allow him back into his routine.
Now is the time for some very tuff love, make him actually walk the walk not just talk the talk. Tell him he needs to get clean and he needs some kind of a program in place to help him remain clean, then sit back and watch what happens.