Thank you so much, everyone. It's done. I started to cry when the judge asked me the place and date of our marriage, but I made it through and the divorce is final effective today. In the end it went out with a whimper. There was no drama, no fight. The total opposite of my first marriage, where the demise of the relationship was low-drama but the divorce was extremely high drama. This time, the demise of the relationship was fraught with drama and abuse, but the actual divorce was easy.
I have been on this road of ending the marriage for four long, grueling, traumatizing years. Suffice it to say that I would NOT be where I am, nor would I be the person I am (or would my kids be the people THEY are), if it was not for everyone here.
Onward and upward.