Originally Posted by
loonie2427 
All of these caveats drive me nuts at this point in my relationship with my AH. "I need to stop," "I want to stop," etc. Then take proactive steps to do so. One of the stickies about how to tell whether an alcoholic is serious about recovery is action rather than words, and I think it basically said that saying "I want" or "I need" is not really being there yet.
When I was still drinking, I used to get up every day wishing I wouldn't feel the need to drink. I needed/wanted to stop, but I kept figuring I'd hit on some magic that would make that just happen. Ultimately I had to just quit without FEELING it. But for the longest time, it felt like it would just happen on its own.