FallenAngelina

I don't know if you feel judged by her or helped by her, but if you've got big time codie thinking, then chances are your sister does, as well, and so your choices will be really hard for her to see if she hasn't done any recovery, herself. Codependent thinking doesn't spring up out of nowhere - it's a coping mechanism that we learn it as children. Many times, un-self aware codies will be the least empathetic and will have the loudest voices telling us to just get over and leave our As. Sure as shootin, your sister very likely has her own codie issues nibbling at her, even if they are not visible to you. Which isn't to point fingers at her, but to suggest that maybe she isn't the most helpful person for you to talk with about this particular part of your life.