I drink. On a friday night I'll open bottle of wine and sometimes I'll drink too much. I'll feel rubbish the next day, but like Minnie, I don't plan my life around it, I don't choose it over living life, and I've never had any life problems because of it.
Living with a 'sober' (if you take hash out of the equation!) A, it's become very obvious to me that the drink is not the main ingredient in alchoholism.
If it was then the minute they stopped drinking they would also stop hiding, obsessing, and hurting.
If I was giving up smoking I would find it easier to be around people who don't smoke. If my A was newly stopped drinking, or minded an open bottle of wine by the fire, I wouldn't drink around her.
J