Wow, am I glad to hear from you. I was worried.
Well, I'd argue you've lost more like 170 pounds of nothing but trouble, but hey, good for you! Great job on the twenty pounds...and your blood sugar and blood pressure getting better is no surprise. Stress causes them both to rise.
Of course he's still trying. You were his bank, his lawyer, his cab service, his meal ticket, his hideout, and his ego feed. Nobody gives all those freebies up easily.
As for the anniversary...even if he was back in your life, he would have disappeared for that anyway. Add in Memorial Day? Pffffffft.
As hard as this is, you sound really good. Much better than on previous vaporizations.
Lots of animal shelters are holding adoption fairs tomorrow. Jus sayin'.
Sending you a huge relieved congratulatory hug!