Originally Posted by
Hitbytrain 
I couldn't understand why he was focus on trips to Florida, working on his boat, or doing other stupid things that didn't matter. It's kind of like his whole life was an avoidance of everything that was real.
Hitbytrain - The commonalities are so interesting to me. Last spring my STBXAH was 49 and our family was falling apart due to his drinking. All he could talk about was our family vacation to Florida. I was about to cancel and it was SOOOOO important to him. I ultimately didn't cancel so things would be "normal" for our son. Three days into vacation, my husband had broken into the owner's closet of our vacation rental to drink the owner's alcohol. That was a turning point for me.