Hi, Hbt, and welcome to SR. First off, I want to mention that this thread is over 5 years old. I'd like to suggest that you start a NEW thread, one of your own, so that people can respond to what you have to say instead of replying to the original 5-year-old post.
You can go about this either by contacting an administrator or moderator and asking them to move your post, or you can simply copy and paste what you've posted here into a new thread if you don't care to type it all out again.
I'd encourage you to read as much in the forum as you can, making sure not to miss the "stickies" at the top of the page. I'm sure you'll see a lot that sounds familiar to you and hopefully will make you feel less alone.
Are you living with him, or do you have a place of your own? Do you have any joint finances? Are you able to simply say "I'm done" and go no contact with him, using your time and energy to work on and heal yourself, or do you have material ties that need to be sorted out too?