Your story sounds normal to me, Norr. Your wife is an active addict hanging out with her kind which means there is no chance of change in the near future. Bring the focus back upon you and what you can do to bring some serenity back into your life.Alanon is something I highly recommend for someone in your situation. They helped me to see my circumstances in a clear and objective manner and gave me tools that allowed me to get my life back on track. Counseling helped too. And researching addiction and how it alters the workings of the brain to create a completely different person than the one you think you are dealing with. Your journey to a different but rewarding life is just beginning, may you be given the patience and understanding to stay on it. Good luck.