Poolside--not this woman! Well, not anymore (smile)
Brenda, please turn and run! In order for me to recover from being attracted to "charming men", I first had to be single for awhile (I mean really single), get some therapy, be real active in service to others (cuz I had so much free time), and I had to look at my part (AA-speak for the fifth column).
I wish you the best.