Originally Posted by
tomsteve 
actually, i was asking about what are you going to do for you.
not what you were going to do to try and get him to change.
what do YOU want out of life?
where do YOU want to be in a year?
I'd love to have all the projects he talks about actually done around the house. New bedroom set, fix the pond, build the shed out back, hardwood floors, vacation to Europe. But none of it will happen. We don't have the money and he'll try and do it himself which will end up with something that will break or fall apart (like the firepit and new door that he swore he could do and the firepit is crumbling and the door won't close all the way). Any money we do manage to have goes towards bills and all his debt that he's accumulated.