Thanks for posting about your FOO. I went and looked at your past thread too and lots of hard earned wisdom shared, but sorry you have had to go through so much with your family.
My husband and I were talking about his family. He is planning a trip back to the area where his parents live so he can begin packing up our house for moving. Trying to have a relationship with his parents is simply unhealthy for him (and for me) at this point. He feels he can speak to his dad but is going to go no contact with his mom. Its a hard choice but its for the best at this point and time.
It took me a while to figure out what FOO meant when I first saw your thread title. I started thinking of Chinese Food and my favorite noodles.