Originally Posted by
tomsteve 
early on in recovery i was told that an alcoholic stops growing mentally and emotionally when they take their first drink. i found it true for me. although 36 when i got sober, i was 13 ish mentally and emotionally.
so, onto soltuions for ya.....what are you going to do?
Well he's never going to change. He's been drinking all his life to excess. He can't just have ONE drink. He likes his video games and he has to have a drink near him while playing. We never go and do anything because he has no motivation. He says over and over again that he wants to lose the gut he's gained over the past couple years, but still stops at fast food restaurants every day and consumes so much beer. I asked him to go for a walk with me a few nights ago and he goes "Nah, that's too much work". I tell him I want to show him the new trail they made along the wetland so he finally agrees. We turn down the path and he says "Oh that's nice" and then I start walking towards it and he goes "Well I don't want to walk down there". He just wanted to go home. Well if taking a slow walk around the neighborhood is too taxing for him, how does he think he's going to lose any weight??!! He never wants to do anything unless it involves a bar.