Originally Posted by
LLLisa 
Also, Alanon is for YOU, not for the addict. Why does she want to go to Alanon?
If her family is full of alcoholics, she certainly qualifies. There are a lot of "double winners" in the rooms (Al-Anon and AA). Still, it would probably be for the best if she attended her own Al-Anon meetings--for the most part, anyway. Having one's "qualifier" right there next to you isn't exactly conducive to open sharing.
Welcome, glad you're here. I wish both of you continued success in your recovery efforts.