Been there done that. First husband alchoholic, second husband alcoholic, son alcoholic, DIL heroin fatality. Just typing that makes me tired.
All I know after years of working the 12 steps is that it gave me my life back. My son is still an active alcoholic and so is my husband...of 24 years. I can't bring the DIL back and now we are helping to raise an amazing 8 year grandchild that was a gift from God.
This is your life...your one and only chance at it...and there was a day in my life when I made a choice that it was going to be all about me. I got up out of the chair, stopped fighting with the alcoholics in my life and got my own life in order. I deserved it and so do you. One choice, one decision at a time and you can have what you want!
What might that be?
Hugs,
JT