Tuna,
From a drunks point of view, we will say whatever we need to so folks will leave us be so we can get drunk.
Please **** us off so we have an excuse to get hammered.
This is exactly how I was. My sweet wife is a real tough nut. She is so forgiving as well. She would nag me, enable me, ignore me etc. She never left me.
When I was ready to quit, after I nearly drank myself insane, she was happy. I am pretty sure she expects me to someday relapse.
Anyway, your girl will stop when she is ready or forced to because of life altering circumstances. Some folk can't stop and drink themselves to death.
This booze thing is no joke. It is a killer. I believe before someone drinks themselves to death, they go mad. No sane person, of otherwise normal disposition, would intentionally kill themselves.
I offer, show your girl this website. Beg her for 5 minutes. Plant the seed. Maybe education will be enough for her to see the spell of addiction she is under.
Thanks.