Hi. I'm newly sober as well, and for about the 20th time too, But in the past I have lasted over 3 years sober. I do relapse but then I try again. That experience has taught me that sobriety is the best way to live. Keep at it, you won't change as much as you think. You will make friends and regain confidence. I have always used alcohol as a coping mechanism too, but there are other ways. Keep at it. I intend to. Take care.