I know I may be my own worst enemy here. I need to keep reminding myself that yes, it really is that bad, and yes, I am being absolutely reasonable and responsible in restricting his access to her.
In NY State, it's a felony to drive drunk with a minor. It's called Leandra's Law, named after Leandra Rosado, an 11 year old, who died after her friend's mother lost control of her car. There were six other children in the vehicle. They were going to the mother's house for a slumber party.
Apparently, the mother, just before the crash, asked the children "Who thinks we're gonna get in an accident?", and all the girls raised their hands.
When you think of that and the story of Diana Schuler, which also, unfortunately, started the momentum behind Leandra's Law, it's tragic that such a law has to exist.
I'm glad you're taking this seriously, for yourself and for your daughter.