I've spoken with a few people who have experienced similar situations and decided that for now, I am simply going to tell him he cannot spend time alone with Q until I feel it is safe. How will I know when it is safe? Someone else pointed out to me that I am a recovering alcoholic, so I will know if he is drinking and using. I think there is some merit to that. I also talked (cried) in my home group tonight and just feeling the love and support in the room really helped alot.
I have lots more I would like to say, but I need to get my butt to bed. G'night, all. Hang in there.....