yeah i get him being on edge....BUT......time and place, dude.
ya know i'm thinking there had to be more going on his head for quite some time for him to get to HERE. this isn't the time to dissect it, of course.
so how are the kids? are you having any talks with them? are they asking any questions? even IF it seems that some or most of them is sailing over their heads, they know in their marrow something is not right.
you're going to need some F2F support too. you don't have to figure any of this out today, today is for standing your ground and trying to keep things as normal as possible INSIDE the home. you are obviously a very independent strong woman with a clear sense of things....but you are also a wife and a mom and watching someone you thought you knew change before your eyes. that can really mess with your head after a while!!!