Originally Posted by
FreedomCA 
I was defining a slip as a 1 day relapse, and a relapse as lasting longer than 1 day. Nothing about slip was I defining as involuntary.
I do agree that I need those temporary boundaries, and I have already told him I will leave the situation under certain circumstances. And it is true to view his drinking as part of his disease and not some fun party.
It just sounds like giving yourself a break because you drank for one day.
Drinking is drinking. One day leads to the next day. Relapse isn't a word I really would use either. It's re-drinking. It is a well-thought out decision to pick up alcohol and put it in your body. Using a word like relapse sounds like it just happened and there was no chance for it to have gone the other way when in fact it was a decision. Even worse, it was a series of decisions. Many many chances to have turned away.
Your vacation drinking has now become regular drinking "just because." Very slippery slope here.