freetosmile2

No, there is no reason to delay. The house is mine (my grandparents bought it and I pay my mortgage to them- praise God)....

He's agreed to stay until I'm done with school and have a couple decent paychecks under me.

But here's the thing...I personally think I'm gonna have a HELL of a time getting him to leave peacefully.

I'm thinking of actually getting his sponsor involved when the time comes.

The divorce is final on July 6th. I will not make him move until that point. It'll be about 3 weeks after I graduate before I can sit for my boards and I really need the financial help.

Plus, I have yet to sit and talk to the kids....still working that one over in my brain. I have a couple of them that I will lose. My two oldest are not mine. I have no rights to them and right now, I'm a poor college student. A lawyer is just out of the question.

AH and I have agreed to respect each others "rights" to each others kids. I don't know if he'll follow through on that agreement, however. He very well might use it as a revenge tactic. My oldest is old enough to drive though and between her ability to drive, social media, and their phones (that I will continue to pay for), I don't see that it will effect my ability to see them or be involved in their lives.

As far as the divorce goes, I don't have a lawyer. But it's kinda a no-brainer....
We have NO assets between us. Not even a banking account in both our names. The only account we have is in my name. The house is mine. All the utilities are in my name. And it's a simple divorce because we have no children together. The three younger ones are mine and the older ones are his.

The bum deal is that right now my car is broke down (again!!) and I might not even want to dump more money into the thing because it's pushing 200 thousand miles and I *think* the problem is in the tranny, which I've already had replaced. Tranny work is so expensive.

I don't start working at the hospital until July, so until then I'm doing charge nursing at a local long-term care facility, but that's an LPN wage, which isn't enough to save up for a down payment on another vehicle.... so I'm not sure what I'm gonna about that.

I've got the good ol trusty suburban, but the brakes are all jacked up (even after I personally replaced the pads, rear wheel cylinders, and the master brake cylinder)... and plus, the thing is a huge gas hog, normally costs me $100/ WEEK(!) to drive that thing.

So I have a few problems- but overall...it's all good. It's all lined up.

Of course I've been getting all the "oh you are just using me to get through school" and "I'm not going to be your slave. I've built you this house and all these things and this is what I get in return"
"you have no respect for me as a man"
"thanks for ruining my life, you wrecker"
"you've destroyed my credit and now that you've got what YOU wanted, I guess you're just through with me" (which I have had NOTHING to do with this man's credit- but whatever)

So I'm learning just to smile and nod- because when he realizes that I simply don't give a shitaki -- he quickly reverts back to the nice, kind, gentle, ya know... the husband that I deserve 100% of the time without having to fake it---because I know now that he IS faking it.

It's all a big show.

But I also know that he has a really hard time keeping the show alive. And I know that in July, I will need to do more than smile and nod. I will take ANY threats seriously. I will NOT hesitate to call stan (the sheriff). I will be changing the locks IMMEDIATELY.
Because I just can't trust that he's going to handle this like an adult. In fact, it's FOOLISH to assume that he will.