Originally Posted by
August252015 
Good job last night!
To me, so early on, if a "no thanks" such answer "doesn't work" - it is ok to use the kind of lie you had in mind. The important thing- MOST important thing- is for you to get through the event sober. Anything that supports that- even avoiding the groom best you can or "mysteriously" being in the ladies at significant points, whatever, is for your own sober good.
For me, no event is worth my sobriety. And early days, having a plan- always keeping a "drink" in hand is a great one- is crucial.
You can do it.
Thanks for the words of encouragement. The wedding is gonna be tough but I need to prove to myself that I can do this. Thankfully my wife is on board and said she will make sure I always have a 'drink' in my hand to keep the questions to a minimum. I am going to have to face this publicly at some point. But my sil' s wedding shouldn't be the place where I tell everyone.