Oh yes, and I forgot to mention that he is asking to go to Al-Anon together. I guess, around here, alot of the couples go together....
But uh...why would I go with HIM, when I probably wouldn't really be "allowed" to speak my mind?
And plus, I've been to al-anon...they, unfortunately, really can't help me in the abuse department..which is fine, as I have said before, it wasn't really designed for that.
In my world, detachment can mean that you've just put yourself in a much more dangerous spot. It's not good advice for the victim....so it kinda doesn't really help me.
Although, working the steps has been a great addition to my life. I applaud that.
But back to going with HIM....why? Why does he want to go NOW?
I have finals next week. I'm trying to study my ass off, and he's all "wounded" because I won't attend these functions with him. First off, I can't. I'm too busy right now. Secondly, alanon should be MY thing, not OUR thing, and thirdly.... well I don't have a thirdly....it's just not a good idea....