Good on you for fixing the drinking within such an unsupportive situation.
-it was hard work for me, and my wife was there for me every step of the way.
The problem with narcissism at that level is that its rarely fixable. Counseling and srstegies are only a bandaid to help someone like that appear as though they care.
Now that you have your strength back, make some changes. -I wanna tell you to drop that dude, but that's cause your story made me angry. Only you know what's best. Please don't settle.