Have been through something similar in the past. He may be a full blown narcissist or not. Most people have some tendencies. Our media - culture isn't helping. Many of us don't look like celebrities. Twenty lbs more is relatively nothing. Your hubs is being immature and selfish. Words from my own spouse.
My counselor explained many males have high levels of dopamine until around age 50. I'm like, I can't wait that long for him and his brain to change.
Through faith in my HP, support from others I stayed. It was hard. Today, he has regrets. So do I. Suppose like most in life's journey. Much forgiveness has taken place between both of us. Were best friends now.
I also suggest counseling. Possibly a male mentor for him. Female support for you. If he's to full of himself to go, than it may be time to re-consider how you want to spend the rest of your life. Whatever he chooses to do, remind your self, your not in control of his choices or behaviour.
Good job in not drinking at him, or this hurtful situation.
