Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
Have you thought about looking for your next job in another part of the country and just leaving him behind? It was great for me--I actually moved back to where we were living when we met--got my old job back. It helped IMMENSELY to have all that distance between us.
^^^^ This may or may not be right for you Smarie but I too left geographically when I realized my qualifier had no bottom in sight.
I went and lived in South America for 6 months. This was probably the biggest step I ever took to becoming proficient in Spanish. I have always been interested in language. I still study it and speak fairly well if not fluently.
I realize you have family in the area you live so moving would be difficult.
Stay close lady. We are here.