NikNox- I feel for you! I agree with Tjunction. We had to have a "family intervention" at our house with our 2 daughters, 19 & 25. Youngest unemployed at the time, oldest moved back here with her 3 yr old to go back to college. My husband and I both work long hours and felt they were both taking advantage of the home situation. No laundry done, meals cooked, house cleaning, etc. We tried to make it clear to them that what we did for them, we did because we loved them and NOT because we owed them anything. With four adults in the house, we expected them to act like it or move on and see how that worked somewhere else. It did get better.