Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
when we codependents say "support" we mean - what can i fix or do or say or bake or buy to make sure THEY never drink again. because that has become our mission.....to chase their drinking problem around - like brooms to bats.
Truer words were never spoken, Anvil!
I remember sitting at the computer, searching the AA site for the meetings that would be the absolute most convenient for XAH to attend, b/c he was unwilling to do anything that inconvenienced him or affected his routine in any way.
Turned out the reason he was so set on preserving his routine was that he'd never stopped drinking and had no plans to. And in fact was not even
going to meetings, just leaving the house for an appropriate amount of time and then coming home w/stories of the "meeting", as I found out later. I guess if you're not even actually attending the meeting, it doesn't much matter how close or convenient it is, right?