Don't know if you found the "stickies" in your wanderings yet, TH. They are at the top of the page--threads that have been deemed so universally helpful that they're "stickied" there, for ease of reference.
Since it sounds like your A really has no plan for his own recovery, and since it sounds like you don't have one for yours either (a saying you'll hear a lot around here is "Hope is not a plan"), you may be looking at a rocky period of time. These threads from the stickies might be useful to you:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-reposted.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
For me, the combo of SR and Alanon was a good one, and I will again suggest Alanon for you regardless of what AH does or doesn't do himself. I will also mention that it costs
nothing except the dollar or two donation that you can choose to give or not. It's an hour of your time, and worth checking into.