Hey honeypig,
Thanks for your response and kind words.
He isn't willing to try AA right now...but he has seen a therapist and I'm hoping he'll continue with that. But it's so early in that I don't really know what to expect. This is the very first time he has ever admitted he has a problem and has taken any steps towards changing so it's a bit of a roller coaster of emotions, feeling hopeful, yet also not wanting to put too much hope in it lest it all falls apart again.
I'd like to see a therapist myself, but I don't think we can afford it at this point. These forums have at least provided a small outlet for all my angst.
I was also finally able to tell my best friend about everything, as up until this point none of my close friends or family knew to what extent things had gotten out of control. I know it's not my fault, but it still feels like a weird and shameful thing to talk about.