So you can see, my partner has lots of reasons to have hit the bottle.
whoa....let's stop that right there. NEVER attempt to justify why someone drinks, especially if they drink to excess and have basically abandoned their own family thru abuse and disinterest.
you too went thru hell...........did you use that as an excuse to check out and drink?
no, you are holding it together and on an online forum seeking help so you find a HEALTHY solution.
you and the children come first. PERIOD. do what is in your best interests. RV man IS a grown up..........with responsibilities. he is perfectly capable to making OTHER choices..........but he's NOT.