he wants back in, our children don't want him near us :-(
Please listen to your children!!
I also recommend counseling for you and your children.
The one thing that really caught by eye in your post was when you said..So you can see, my partner has lots of reasons to have hit the bottle.
So you can see, my partner has lots of reasons to have hit the bottle.
He lacks healthy coping skills, normal people do not hit the bottle and hard in order to deal with life's distress's. Please don't mistake all of those things that happened in his/your life as excuses for him to have had to drink.
You lost babies, you had cancer, did you hit the bottle hard?
It's not normal for the children's father to be living in a mobile home parked in the driveway drunk off his a@@. The kids have to witness that and it's going to affect them. Get them and yourself into counseling ASAP. Can't he take himself and that that mobile home and park it somewhere else and away from all of you?