He is not in a recovery program. We have bee in counceling for a year. The councler is pretty disgusted with him. my AH is looking for someone to tell him it is alright to sit on the fence forever. I may well be looking for a reason to stop the divorce. The grand gesture I would like to see is him to do something to show he wants an us besides just saying it. I am going to start my own counceling soon. My friends are just waiting for it to blow over and ever time I talk to my mom she just starts telling me about her fricking cats. Somehow I just feel like my marriage is a more important topic than furballs. Call me crazy. Got no other family than that and my son. I am just really confused about his memory problems.