Calicofish, your post sure resonated with me. I was a social drinker for many years, then as I approached menopause I gradually increased my wine intake. When I was at ~3/4 of a bottle, most days, I started to realize it was a problem. My outlook and mood got worse and worse. My sister is in a similar boat -- complains about her depression but won't make the link to her drinking. I shared my experience a couple times, but of course it's up to her.
Thanks for the post.