My husband and I began recovery together (this time) close to a month ago. I recently thought that he slipped and began drinking again. Initially I felt angry because he didn't tell me, then sad because he was probably suffering, hence he felt the need to cave in.
After a "meeting of the minds" together, I learned that he didn't slip. I decided that he has his recovery, and I have mine. I cannot save him from falling back into the s***** lifestyle we were living before we decided to get sober or keep reminding him of how terrible he is going to feel if he starts the cycle all over again. All I can do is set an example of what life looks like when I'm my best self: sober, healthy, happy and hopeful.
Hang in there and try to stay focused on YOU! It's hard to do when you love someone and I'm finding that I need to stay mindful every day that I cannot do this for him. He's a "big boy", he will find his way.