I drank for a long time while I knew I needed to quit because I thought it was ok. Then I realized it would kill me and it's not ok. I had to accept, deep down, that I'm an alcoholic and I can't drink. No matter what.
That sets in motion recovery. I have ample time to work out the causes and why's for my drinking. But I have to be sober for that.
I wanted so bad to be able to keep drinking. Then things got bad and I had to give up and try something else. You can too.