At first meetings were me were necessary. Needed/wanted- to make a human connection. I have a sponsor did all the big book, steps stuff. I now find myself questioning a lot of things in my life. I do not go to meetings now out of obligation or because my sponsor does so religiously. I choose to go when I do. AA to me is a place for learning from others- BUT the focus is booze. I drank to avoid a lot of things which AA cannot answer. It works great for many. I still go, but I do not go 'because I have to feel better'. I would rather work out why I feel crap- with appropriate support/learning- so eventually I will grow from feeling crap. SR is a part of that journey, but not the only one.