Welcome to Sober Recovery, Dietra. This place has been a godsend for me and many others. I'm very sorry to hear of your situation.
It must be devastating to have been blindsided like that.
Feel free to read and post here; there are thousands of people with thousands of different experiences--some of them are bound to resonate.
Be sure to check out the "Friends and Family of Substance Abusers" forum especially.