his mom has a ton of experience with alcoholism in her family
cough. having "experience" WITH alcoholism is vastly different from being any type of an expert. case in point HER SON.
my caution to you is this....even IF he did "agree" to whatever will be proposed, that is NOT a green light to race home to his open arms. that you are being excluded from the "intervention" is troublesome in that you are his WIFE and will have no idea what is said, offered or discussed.
it's out of your hands. and as such, you must do what is in YOUR best interests now. not his, not his parents. don't be thrown off because he has managed to amass an entire five whole days without a drink. the day is still quite young. he is still VERY dangerous and volatile.